October 12, 2006

A Question

A couple of weeks ago, we had a guy come into the shop, a prossible buyer, to buy a couple kits, and look around at the operation. He'd been in before, when I was home early September, so my aunt was already familiar with him.

Nice enough guy, he asked a few questions about the shop, talked to my aunt a bit, then left. As soon as he took off, my aunt starts telling me about him. Harley rider, Merchant Marine, single, lives not too far away. Then it got weird.

"You know... you and B (the male cousin in law) should ask him to come hang out with you on Thursday nights. I bet he'd like to throw darts... then you could play, too. I'm going to call S (the female cousin), and see if maybe B and him could go riding. B is always looking for someone to ride with."

I just looked at her and shook my head. Too weird.

So then I go over to B and S's place to work out, and S is talking about B getting together with this guy. Insists that he give him a call. B and I both thought it sounds too strange. S said we were being difficult.

Anyway, the guy shows up again, yesterday, and is very interested in the place. Even talked about payment options. My aunt and he talked for awhile, but I didn't get to visit too much as we are falling behind. Again... very nice guy, but everything you say is answered with, "Great. Great... I see." "Hey... that's excellent. Great. Uh huh. Yeah, I see." I was in back laughing... he was doing that while my aunt just kept on talking. You couldn't make out a word being spoken, as they were both at the same volume, and about the same tone. But I digress... he leaves, and she's excited about possibly selling. Normal. I thought.

I got over to my cousin's place tonight, and found out that we are supposed to set up a time to grill out with the guy... at my cousin's (who he hasn't met) place. That way he and B can get to know each other. B and I got scolded for saying some pretty nasty stuff, which I won't say here. We just couldn't get over it.

So, Ladies, do you think this sounds completely normal? Would you do this to your husband?

And Gents, have you ever had a woman in your life try to pull something like this? Doesn't it sound a bit weird to you?

I'll give my take on the whole thing later, only saying right now that it creeps me out.

Posted by That 1 Guy at October 12, 2006 05:27 AM | TrackBack

i got confused by the b. s., but are you trying to say your aunt was pushing a hetero date? like you adult boys, go play now? yeah, that's a little strange, but codependents like to work out stuff FOR you so you don't have to bother. go with it, vman says cornholing is the shit!!

Posted by: shoe at October 12, 2006 06:38 AM

Unless you got a creepy vibe off of him, don't worry. It's been done to me before by my friends and girlfriends. Ended up getting to know one of my closest friends that way. However, usually it ended up being just a person who came around a couple of times then that was about it.

There's also the factor of your family wanting you to make good friends down there, probably in hopes you'll set roots and stay. Just be thankful they care for you that much.

Posted by: rsm at October 12, 2006 07:19 AM

Yeah, it's weird.

Girls, don't try and set up "play dates" for your male friends with other males. It's just damn weird.

Posted by: Ogre at October 12, 2006 07:30 AM

Gotta say, that's kinda weird. I'm all about "folks gettin' to know each other" but I've never been one to make arrangements. Might be because I hate when someone does it to me, so I won't do it to anyone else. Plus - is he that desperate for friends to go along with this?


Posted by: Tammi at October 12, 2006 07:59 AM

I think it's kinda cute . . . exploring your gay-er . . . manlier side with another man . . .

Next you will tell me you and B and Harley guy are skipping through a parking lot singing la-la-lala-la-la like the smurfs!


Posted by: oddybobo at October 12, 2006 08:00 AM

Being ever the asshole, but figure in for a penny in for a pound to me it begs the question:

Whats the age difference between he and your aunt?

If its not too god awful mayhaps she wants him to be...uhh..acceptable?

Dunno. Maybe I'm grasping at straws here but thats my take anyway

Posted by: BloodSpite at October 12, 2006 12:29 PM

I agree with Ogre it sounds like a play date. Then again, maybe your aunt is getting a little business savy and is trying to get you and your cousin to smooze the guy into buying the business. If you look at it that way, it's not that weird.

Posted by: Contagion at October 12, 2006 06:04 PM

Uhhhh... I know you're in Florida and stuff but you haven't been wearing any sweaters
lately, have you???

That might be it...

Posted by: Richmond at October 12, 2006 06:32 PM

Only time I've ever pushed my husband to go spend time with someone was when it was his best friends since grade school and we were in town. I think my words were along the lines of "good lord, do I have to pick up the phone and call your friends for you?" or something to that effect.

But I'm with Richmond - are you wearing sweaters?

Posted by: Teresa at October 12, 2006 09:38 PM

My thought was that of Bloodspite's.

And nope, never tried to get my husband to hang with anyone. Ever. I have to admit I've nagged him a time or two about keeping in touch with a couple of his best friends... really good guys he thinks a lot of, but other than that, nope. Who he hangs with is his biz. I don't interfere.

Posted by: Bou at October 16, 2006 05:10 AM

I may suggest that two friends share common interests - but in No Way would I try to force 'em to get together or facilitate the meeting unless asked! If I did such a thing to the Hubster, I'd be sleeping on the couch fer sure. Weird!

Posted by: Barb at October 16, 2006 08:40 PM